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Regressive minds

'Neeya Naana', a Tamil talk show, is one of the TV programs that I have started watching recently. It gives a nice insight into people's lives. Not completely, but useful for someone like me who is not living in Tamil Nadu.

The latest program was on newly married couples who are just starting their life. The show had around 20 couples, who were married for less than a year. Somewhere in the second half of the program, the host (a former TV journalist) asked the participants - is there some questions that you wanted to ask your spouse, but haven't asked it so far?

A young man asked his wife sitting on the opposite side, " Do you feel happy after you married me?". At this time, the host asks the husband why he wanted to ask this question. The young man replied, "We married after in love for 9 years. We faced many opposition and struggles to get married. I wanted to know whether she (wife) is more happy after she married me. I want to make her happy."

His wife replied with a big smile saying she is more happy than she ever thought. At this moment, the husband's eyes were moist, but one could feel his emotion in the question he asked and the reply made him feel.

The couple didn't state the reasons why their marriage got delayed. But, what sort of society (Tamil, India or even the world) we live that people feel okay to intervene in the lives of two adults who are in love with each other, all in the name of caste, religion, class or other stuff. When will we ever come out of it. 

I am feeling pessimistic when I see what's happening around. A progressive society should hold on to a set of values that takes the people forward. It can't happen unless individuals change. Will we?



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